LETTING GO OF CLUTTER
Since I was a very young girl I have had a love of cleaning and order, I would re arrange my bedroom, clean out my cupboards. I remember having read Wind in the Willows and on the first page Mole was white washing and spring cleaning his home. This ignited something in me that has stayed with me ever since. I remember reading and re-reading that page so many times.
People laugh at me when I say how much I love cleaning, I love the feeling that I get when i'm finished and everything is in order. I can't explain but it gives me such joy to the very core of my soul. I know that sounds funny but it's the clarity that it brings. Having everything in its place and knowing that everything is at home with itself. In it's space.
When my children were young, I would say to them if they had a tidy room to start the day then that would set them up for the rest of the day. Things would be ordered. Recently when I woke up I felt how this also related to me. I had never really stopped and thought about it, maybe never really appreciating how my love of order had supported me through out my life.
I know as a young married mum with 3 children order was in my bones. That doesn't mean that my house was always super tidy, but it was a way for me to somehow keep a check on myself. If things got out of hand I knew that something inside me was off. Spring-cleaning my home was a way to come back to a clarity and I would feel that somehow I had re-aligned myself back to me, I felt rebalanced. I would spend a few days spring cleaning from one end of the house to the other. My friends used to call me Miss Springclean.
It wasn't about my house being perfect, at times it would get a bit messy with 3 children and working, but there was something about my cupboards being in a mess that had a profound effect on me. I would say that it unsettled me. At the time we shifted a bit and in each home that we shifted to getting the storage and cupboards sorted was something that I liked to do pretty quickly. My husband was a carpenter so it was usually doable. Having the right storage made such a difference to how I lived.
I remember one of my children's jobs was to unpack the dishwasher and I loved that she would put everything back in its place. To me that was heaven.
When we have a place for everything and everything goes back into its place then keeping order can be pretty simple.
It's the not accumulating to much stuff and having nowhere to put it that can get us in a mess.
I am going through my house all the time, if i'm ironing and I find something that I feel needs to go then I pop it into a bag that I keep for things that need to go. By making that decision straight away there is no clutter lying around. Its gone straight away.
When I come into someones home to support them to eliminate clutter, there is usually an underlying issue that has been buried in a sense under the clutter, by working together, you can uncover what the real issue is and this will support you to let go off the things that you already know are not needed.
Clarity brings with it a flow and simplicity that creates a harmonious house.
The preciousness of order and the clarity it brings.
Everything starts with you
Before and After Photos - Wardrobe Decluttering
Below is the Before and After of Kirstin's wardrobe decluttering process.
When you start small and consistently working through the house. What you have done actually supports you to keep clearing. It will feel so AMAZING.
When you start, you will feel inspired by your own work, you will feel the difference. You will start to feel it spread throughout your home, like a magic wand casting away the disregard. You will start to feel the clarity as the cloud disappears.
By breaking things down into smaller tasks, we don’t overwhelm ourselves with what is needed to run our home smoothly. ~ Denise
My marker if something is starting to slip is my dinning room table. I will notice that I can come in and drop things there and then not get back to them. It is great because it is in the heart of the house so it can't be hidden. It's in my face. It's so easy to just drop things there as I walk in. All these are little signs saying STOP there is something going on that I need to look at.
Finding what rhythm suits you is a way to support yourself. What works for you to stay organised. No one can do it for you. The commitment has to come from you. By having little routines that work for you. e.g. Do a little pick up before you go to bed. Clean up as you are preparing meals. Pick the little things that stand out for you, that you will notice instantly. This way you are making markers that will bring your attention to what is going on. We just have to stop and feel what is going on.