For years I struggled to keep my home tidy, it would either be super tidy or I would be struggling to kept it tidy, there was never a holding and I was always exhausted trying to keep up with the ups and the downs.

I was always very particular about how I cleaned my house, I have always loved cleaning and having an ordered space.

But I was just lying down and pondering on how I had always made it about making the house look better, better ways to clean, better ways that I could store my things, reducing the space needed to pack things away.

Years ago I remember packing and reorganising a Doona Set that I had for years,  I had spent a few hours cleaning and rearranging the linen cupboard, as I stood back I thought how I had so much more room in the cupboard, but what I realised was that a lot of the things that I had rearranged were things that I didn't use and would only see the light of day when I would get them out to rearrange.

The next minute my Auntie walked in for a visit and was glad to have a new Doona and matching pillows that were lovely. It felt good to let go of what I didn't need and someone else could enjoy. It felt like in my pursuit to store things in an orderly way I had not considered they might not be needed at all.

What I now realise is that I had always been trying to do things better, rearranging to a smaller space, being more organised, having a better system.

But what if it isn't about being better, it's about building a steady consistency, it's not just about the bigger picture, it's about the little things that make up the bigger picture. Its about making choices, one little thing at a time, that builds, and doing so it is building on the consistency that then holds the whole house, not just the things that you see but also the things that you don't see.

Before you know it your whole life has a solidness to stand on – not just your house. A leg may fall off occasionally, things might get messy, but the whole place does not fall to bits, it's just a hick up. Just jump back on board. Simple but easy.
​

When I used to go away on holidays (do you recall those days??)  I always liked to unpack my bags as soon as I got home otherwise they would sit there for a week.

This has not always been the case but for the past few years it has been growing stronger in my body that now it is a given. I automatically do it. There is something really beautiful in doing it straight away. Something confirming.

Building consistency, commitment in all the tiny things that we do in our lives  is  life changing. These are the things that can change our lives forever. The tiny little choices that we make.

Imagine that. We seem to always focus on the big things. Like Change your Job, Buy a new house.

But it is the little things that support us to make lasting changes. The things that we imagine would not make much difference, if any, to the big picture.
​
Well think again.

What if we were to consider the little things as the most important things, and start to build a solid foundation, baby steps, implementing little changes in your day,  no pressure, no judging, no beating yourself up or thinking you're not good enough. Having a steady flow that is building silently in the background.

Now this is life changing.

       That may sound funny to some, but who is living in your wardrobe,  who are we reflecting if we are living with everyone else's ideal and beliefs. We listen to what other people think, we see in magazines what everyone else is wearing, we are bombarded with pictures everywhere of what a we should wear, how he or she should look, we listen to all the old rules and traditions that govern our beliefs about everything including clothes. None of these are reflecting who you truly are. 

How often do we buy things and get them home and wonder what the hell was I thinking? Only to return it in disbelief or leave it in the wardrobe to sit. These are very common issues, things that I hear a lot.

But what if you were to stop, have a really good look at your wardrobe. Stand back  and ask yourself :
How much do I truly love and feel gorgeous and sexy in?
When I put this on, does my body light up, how does my body move in these clothes. All these things are telling you something.

How many thing in your wardrobe sit beautifully on my body,  how do you feel as you are walking in them? Do you feel the clothes on your skin, how they sit on your body, are they soft and comfortable or hard and scratchy.

Do you feel your whole body and your clothes walking as one. 

No one else can tell you how your body feels in the clothes that you buy.  If I need to ask for someone else's opinion then I instantly know that I should walk out the door.

When I go shopping I like to take my best friend with me. Thats my body.
​Connect with my body and off we go together. 


 

  Getting my house in order is about so much more then just cleaning.
When I was first married with children, if I felt like I was out of sink, then I would spring-clean the whole house. It was a cleansing for me as well as the house, and for that matter for everyone that was in the house. When I finished I would feel centred, re balanced, like my life was back in order. This didn't mean that the house had to be spotless and everything in it's place all the time. It was about how I would feel on the inside. I would feel very settled, able to see things more clearly.
The clarity would sift through to all parts of my life. Nothing was a struggle.

I have always had a feeling  that my cupboards were about so much more then just the things that I put inside them, and how I did it. They were the inside story off my life and how I was living. It didn't matter that they were closed and no one else saw inside them. It was how I cared for the things in my cupboard that was important.  How I cleaned, looked after and put away all the things that went into the cupboards, the feeling I got when I opened the doors to put things away. Absolute Joy.

​If you have read any of my blogs you would already know how much I love cleaning and clearing spaces.  I say how I make love to my saucepans because I lovingly clean them, I love looking into the bottom after they have been scrubbed and seeing the light shinning back at me. 
 
Cleaning is about so much more then cleaning. It is a reflection of how you live in every way.
 
The other night I was hanging my whites on an inside line before I went to bed. I love to hang everything I can on coat-hangers and then hang the rest in a loving order.
 
The next morning as I was walking to the office I was stopped in my tracks. I stood there looking at the clothes hanging on the line. It felt like slow motion.
I looked at the detail that I had hung the clothes on the line, the loving way that I had faced them in a particular way, like they were all looking in the same direction. The socks were also all walking in the same direction.
 
What I felt as I stood looking at the clothes on the line was the love that I had hung them in, the playfulness, the joy that doing this little job before bed gave me and then to get up the next morning and feel the quality as I walked past, all the love, joy and playfulness that I had hung them in the previous night. It felt divine.

 Yesterday morning as I was getting dressed for work I went to get a pair of briefs out to put on, as I was about to put them on I felt how they were not the  pair of briefs that I had previously chosen, as I went to get them out of the draw I grabbed another pair. There was nothing wrong with them but I felt how they weren't the ones that I wanted to wear today. I put them back in the cupboard and got out a pair that I love to wear.

As I continued to get dressed I got out a bra that I liked, a shirt that I love to wear  and a pair of slacks that I fell amazing in. They are so comfortable and I feel so sexy in them. I was off to do a cleaning job.

In the afternoon after I had finished the cleaning and I was back at work I felt what a beautiful day it had been. As I pondered on my day I felt how stopping and making that tiny choice in the morning had made such a difference to my day. 

It was then that I felt how if I love myself enough to only choose to wear things that I love, that then spreads through-out my day, if I love what I do then that also adds to my day and if I continue by loving what I wear and eating the food that my body loves to eat that supports it, then my day is filling up with a grandness,  this feeling of absolute joy that i'm driving home with a smile on my face and feeling so gorgeous inside that I want to give myself a hug.

I recently cleaned out the whole garage, I washed all the walls, we shifted the fridge and cleaned out the cupboard in the garage. It felt amazing after we finished. For the next few weeks I would sweep the floor each time leaves accumulated on the  floor making a mess. I love to sweep instead of blowing it out, there is something that is beautiful for me when I sweep. I love the ordered way that I start from one side and work my way across and then come back and then start again.                                                                  

Since cleaning out the garage I have noticed that I have been more aware of my car and the vacuuming of it. I had been vacuuming the car each time I saw that the floor needed to be cleaned, but last week I cleaned the car and it didn't even need to be cleaned. It felt amazing. This was the first time I had ever considered cleaning it when it didn't need to be cleaned. It was a real marker. 

I have also been cleaning the leather seats as well and wiping  the surroundings with "Armorall". Last week I also gave it a polish, it was called lazy man polish. It is great as it doesn't leave a white polish that can be hard to get off the corners if it goes over the edge, I also  cleaned all the windows inside and out. 

Boy is the car looking amazing. Its probably 10 years old and even though it is starting to look a bit worn, it  still feels amazing and is loving all the attention.

The reason that I'm saying all this is that I can feel how my lovingly cleaning out the garage has just continued to spread and deepen, each week there has been more attention to detail.  When we love what we are doing, then the love has a way off seeping into everything. It keeps expanding and growing. 

I used to keep my car clean and Chris would always wash my car for me, But I feel that me taking responsibility for washing my car as well has had a huge impact on keeping it clean. The whole experience has had a profound impact on what I am seeing and feeling. It is like I have thrown a rock into a lake, the circles go around and around spreading out and touching the next circle. Evolving as they go as I am also. 

I am feeling how this has had an impact on my life that is far greater then I am consciously aware off. Showing me the depth and the quality of how the little things can impact on everything in my life,  building a consistency that I am feeling does not have me in the equation. It feels like the choice is coming from something inside off me, the way I live, that is now guiding and supporting me.

Can't wait to see what the following few weeks will bring. I'm really enjoying this unfolding. So is my car.

​Update.
For a few weeks the car and the shed have been on my list but I hadn't gotten to them.The other day Chris washed the cars, did the wheels, and all the extra bits  and I spent nearly all day detailing them both. Then when I was finished I cleaned out the shed that had gotten a bit untidy. It now feels like the cars and the shed also have a holding in them, this supports me to bring them back to a beautiful space were everything is holding everything else. Every part of our home is being supported by the love and attention to detail. Building consistency, and a commitment to caring lovingly for all that we have. We can then take this love to work with us to build on a foundation in the world. 

This morning after I said good bye to Chris I felt to give my car a vacuum. We recently bought a hand held vacuum that we keep in the garage to make it easy to give the cars a clean instead of brining the big one out of the house. I felt this would support us to keep on top of cleaning the cars.
Usually we clean them when we see that they are needing some TLC. But this morning I felt to give my car a vacuum and it didn't even need it. It felt so lovely like the car had put its-self into my rhythm list without me even knowing. 

Rhythms are something that I like to use to keep me in a natural flow. I look at it like painting the opera house, its always in the link and then not forgotten.  

It feels so different when something just naturally pops up to be cleaned, there is no pushing,  it then comes with a joyful feeling that pushing to get it done just doesn't bring. Pushing makes it hard and usually something that we don't want to do.

​Choosing to make life so much more simple, flowing and most of all joyful.

I have always had a love of Order, since I was a little girl and I read Wind in the Willows where Mole was white washing and Spring-cleaning his little home I have loved cleaning, reorganising and getting rid of clutter.
 
Over the years that I have been supporting women and men to eliminate clutter from their homes, my awareness and understanding has grown in that there is so much more at play here then we could possibly have ever imagined.
 
Have you ever considered that the way you keep your home could be nurturing yourself?  It is the bed you lie in so to speak.

I feel that my home is giving me a reading on the way I live in every way. It is telling me far more about me then I had ever considered. It goes far deeper then what you can see with your eyes. 

Our homes are constantly reflecting to us the way in which we live, far beyond just doing our housework and keeping the house tidy and clean. What if something as simple as putting gloves on to do the washing up then affected every movement that you made with your hands. It was like you took that love and care into everything that you touched, the way that you washed your face, the way that you put your cups away or the way you put clothes onto the clothes line. The list goes on and on.
 
How amazing would that be that something as simple as putting gloves on to wash up could change your whole life? It’s interesting that when we go looking for the things that can make a difference to our lives we look for the big things. Like loosing weight, but what if it is the tiny little things that make the most profound impact on our choices. Who would have considered that learning to love yourself could support you to loose weight. Its the simple things in life.
 
One of the things that I have always wondered about was that I felt  my cupboards reflected far more about me then what my house looked like. I like my house to be neat and tidy but it is my cupboards that I have always felt showed me far more about me then my tidy house. It is not having things inside me in a mess, like a messy cupboard. 
 
My cupboards have always been a marker, years ago if my life felt like it was out of sorts in some way then I would Spring-clean my home from one end to the other. Cleaning and clearing as I went. After this I would feel a sense of balance back in my life, it felt like a breath of fresh air now ran through my home. There would be a feeling of clarity as I walked through the house after I had finished, I loved this feeling.
 
I feel that my home is like my reference book on how I’m living my life. Something that is always there for me, supporting me, I just need to remember to STOP and read it.